Day 16

“Toxic love feels like ‘passion’ because your nervous system confuses chaos for safety.

Let’s break down why toxic love feels addictive: Chaotic relationships create dopamine spikes (like a slot machine), keeping you hooked on ‘maybe this time.’ Your brain confuses drama with safety—craving the cortisol (stress) and oxytocin (bonding) cocktail. Leaving triggers anxiety, insomnia, and obsession—like quitting a drug.

• Name the addiction (e.g., ‘This isn’t love—it’s a trauma bond’).

• Replace chaos with calm rituals (e.g., meditation, walks, creative projects).

• Build new neural pathways by prioritizing consistency over intensity.

Your workbook today makes this detox tangible and doable.

Your mission today is to create your . You’ll: What pulls you back? (e.g., late-night texts, loneliness). Calm rituals to disrupt the cycle (e.g., ‘When I crave contact, I’ll call a friend’). Celebrate every hour/day you choose peace over chaos.

This isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. You might feel withdrawal… and that’s okay. It means you’re healing.

Day 16

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Trauma Bond Detox

Assignment Notice

• Your mission today is to create your Trauma Bond Detox Plan. You’ll:

  1. Identify Triggers: What pulls you back? (e.g., late-night texts, loneliness).

  2. Choose Replacements: Calm rituals to disrupt the cycle (e.g., ‘When I crave contact, I’ll call a friend’).

  3. Track Progress: Celebrate every hour/day you choose peace over chaos.

  This isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. You might feel withdrawal… and that’s okay. It means you’re healing.

  Tomorrow, we’ll reclaim your voice. But today, celebrate this: You’re breaking an addiction you didn’t choose.

  Remember: You deserve love that feels safe. And I’m so proud of you. See you tomorrow!

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