Day 4

“Your thoughts are not facts—they’re survival instincts gone rogue.”

Let’s break down the ABCs of codependent thinking:

1. Activating Event: The trigger (e.g., a request for help).

2. Belief: The unconscious thought (e.g., ‘I’m bad if I say no’).

3. Consequence: The emotional/behavioral result (e.g., guilt → people-pleasing).

The CBT Hack:

• Step 1: Spot the Belief.

• Step 2: Ask: ‘Is this belief true, or is it a childhood survival rule?’

• Step 3: Replace it with a New Truth (e.g., ‘My needs matter too’).

This isn’t about positive thinking—it’s about accurate thinking. Your workbook today makes this effortless.”

Day 4

Resources and Downloads

CBT Hack

Assignment Notice

Download the Thought Detective Worksheet that you will find in the resources. For the next 3 days, you’ll:

1. Catch a Codependent Thought: E.g., ‘I’m responsible for their happiness.’

2. Challenge It: ‘Where did this belief come from? Is it serving me?’

3. Rewrite It: ‘I’m responsible for my happiness—their feelings are not my job.’

Tomorrow, we’ll tackle guilt. But today, celebrate this: You’re not just changing thoughts—you’re reclaiming your power.

Remember: You are the author of your story now. And I’m so proud of you. See you tomorrow!

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